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Discrimination In 2015

By Divyansha Dongre.

Why is math considered more superior than English? Even though, in most of the countries the medium of teaching math is English and textbooks are printed out in English language.

“English is a waste of a subject” he laughed. Fast forward three ,months and he was running back and forth between the head of the English department and the library trying to fine tune his personal statement/essay to be sent to the university and asking his friends who had a good knowledge of English to proof read his work .

Why is a student studying sciences always considered more intellectual and smart than a student studying humanities? The world doesn’t revolve around science related subjects now does it?

Oh she doesn’t have to stress for exams” she complained as she rolled her eyes, “she’s taken those easy subjects like history and stuff like that.”

The society is so quick to judge when A level or SAT scores are out. A person with straight A’s is considered as a smart student with alot of potential. Where as a person with U’s is looked down upon, mocked and is always surrounded with negativity. He/she is never given an opportunity to break thrown the deep dark dungeons of depression and the horrible feeling of failure.

But here’s a question of the day.

Is this student with straight A’s who cannot differentiate between your and you’re or he/she typs lyke tis, has no sense of responsibility, doesn’t understand the bases of feminism nor does have good communication skills both written and oral still smart?

Why do we discriminate between professions and career choices? Medicine, law, engineering are definitely tough career pathways but that doesn’t make them or the person taking those career pathway superior and smarter. “Her career path is a easy one.” she managed to say, as she munched on her packet of potato crisps, “She’s doing fashion or interior designing.”

I’d love to see you hold a paint brush and paint something. Lets see how easy that’s going to be for you.

Its to funny to see that its students who judge other students career- students who haven’t yet embarked on their career pathway or started university level education.

Here’s another question of the day.

Will your degree in mechanical engineering be more powerful and superior than a that of a fashion designer? Even though you’re at home uploading your CV’s online because you’re still unemployed, probably due to your poop written and oral communication skills and that ‘girl with a easy career pathway’ is employed at a high profile company.

Why is a PhD in physics more powerful and commendable than a PhD in English literature. Aren’t they both PhD’s? Arent the length of both course the same?

Why does a class always applaud for the student who answered a really difficult question but not for the student who sits quietly in the corner writing the most beautiful piece of poetry you will ever come across.

The society focuses so much on grades that they often forget that average begins with an A, and excellent begins with an E. We need to stop grouping students as smart or dumb based on sheet of paper. Because that person with an E might just over take you in the whole scheme of life.

If you’re a failure like me. keep your head up and smile about it. That one incident of failure will teach you much more than fifteen occasions of success. Failure is something you cant out-run. Failure is like a common cold- everyone is infected by it once, twice or more than thrice. Failure comes in different packages- academic failure, relationship failure, professional failure etc. If you’re a victim of failure, be proud about it. It will teach you so much about yourself- the extends you can go up to, the limits you can push. It will make you emotionally and mentally stronger. It will teach you so much about how the society runs and also bring out the other side of the people around you. You’ll be shocked. You’ll want to face more failure’s just to learn ore about the people around you. But mostly importantly, it makes you stronger.

If you’re planning to major in History or perhaps explore English literature more. Let no bitch be the boulder in your way. You do your thing. Keep calm, work hard and stay positive and make sure you bitch slap each and every one who mocked your career choice and called you dumb for not studying something related to science. Go out there, write down a best selling book. Throw it on their face when it becomes the New York times best seller and finally, invite them to the red carpet events when your book turns into a motion picture. And laugh like a deal seal!

And finally, here’s something we all need to start doing:

STOP grouping students as smart or dumb. Always remember average begins with an A and excellent begins with an E

STOP grouping subjects as useful or useless subjects. You’ll be shocked how important it is to have a good knowledge of English language. .

STOP pulling down a failure. You’re breaking him/her. He/she is already fragile and doesn’t need your words or judgement s to prick him’her like thorns.

APPRECIATE everyone’s career choice. Not everyone is molded in such a way to become an engineer. Everyone has different interests and abilities. Medicine, law and engineering aren’t the 3 most respectable and well paying jobs.

STOP assuming that a person opt for humanities because he/she must have failed their previous examination.

Start APPRECIATING words and art more than numbers. The earth without art would just be eh.

Thank You!

Im A Failure And Im Proud Of It

bigstock-Abusive-words-hurt-30940841Yes you heard it right.

“Im extremely proud of my failure and want to experience more”

Growing up in a brown family isn’t necessary all rainbows and unicorns. Apart from the family bonding and interacting with your extended family on daily bases, its got its down turns too.

There is this stereotypical thinking in the outside world that browns are genius when it comes to math and sciences. There is no doubt in accepting that fact. India has the highest number of engineers and flaunt their extraordinary skills in space research. But for most of us math and sciences is a piece of cake. We dread every single second spent in the physics class and always zone out in the math class. And that’s the root of all problems.

I have always been addicted to the television. At a young age, I would lie down beside my grandma and enjoy those typical cliche, over dramatic Indian daily soaps. The television and star studded world has always fascinated me.

I remember placing my teddy bears and caked up dolls (courtesy of my mother’s make up and my artistic skills) on the sofa, wearing my mum’s clothes and jewelry . Lastly I would hold a bottle of deodorant in my hand, stand in front of a mirror and yap for endless hours pretending to be a ground journalist.

Somewhere in between pretending to be journalist and fangirling over my favorite journalist Barkha Dutt. I made up my mind and started knitting dreams about becoming a journalist.

But as you grow up your career and your dreams, your goals  becomes everybody’s dreams, career and business.

When I shared my career goals with a few family members, they didnt quite seem amused or proud.

“Huh journalist?” He laughed, rolling his eyes, “But beta what will you do in that field? They dont even earn much! Become an engineer, my son’s doing that and that will ensure you  a bright future. 

I remember my mum rubbing my back with her hand and politely asking me to change my career plans. I was fifteen-extremely young and naive to make career decisions and fight for my career decision.I agreed to my mother. After all all your mother wants is the best of you.

“Beta, I want you have a good future. A lot of tuition fee goes into your education. Alot is sacrificed. Im not paying all that money for you to end up becoming a journalist.”

The thought of disappointing my mother was devastating. Part of what she said was true- alot was being sacrificed. And since we belong to a middle class family, money matter alot.

I wasnt quite sure what to do next for what subjects to pick at IGCSE level. I wasnt sure what to picture myself as.

Fast forward months and there I was in year 11. I vividly remember, I was busy chopping a few tomatoes and helping my mum in the kitchen, continuously talking about my new career choice-“Nutririon and dietetics“, what I could do with that degree, how difficult it could get blah blah blah.

“But its not like you’re doing engineering”

I stopped chopping the tomatoes and looked at my mum quizzically. I had so much in my mind, but my mouth failed to form any words. Flashbacks of my ‘year 9 career crisis’ hit my mind. The quizzical look soon changed into disbelief. I was completely devastated and extremely shocked. Its like the universe has been building up against me and decided that nothing should ever go according to the way I want them to.

“Well” I rolled my eyes and returned my attention back to the tomatoes.

My mum continued to clear her point and clear the misunderstanding that she created. But my ears were blocked with my own thoughts.

“What does she expect from me?”

“What does she want from me?”

“Why cant she just accept my career choice for once?”

Its necessary to to point out that one of our family friends daughter had completely her A levels and flew to the UK in order to get trained as bio engineer. And her mother would not stop talking about it whenever we met. It was suppose to be a family dinner but it ALWAYS turned out to be a family dinner to appreciate her achievements and talk about her the whole night.

Im not jealous by the way. Its just that some parents need to know that their child inst the center of attraction every time.

As time flew, my mum finally accepted my choice. I learned that the nutrition and dietetics field is fast growing and job opportunities are vast. A this time both my mum and I very happy.

Every time you plan your future, god laughs a little.

I failed my AS levels.

I scored 3E’s.

And things have never been the same or running smoothly after that.

Its been one wild roller coaster ride for me.

{End Of Part One}

Hello world!

Hello! My name is Divyansha Dongre- a nineteen years old pop culture enthusiast.

This blog is basically a mixture of everything you need to know about the star studded world- from Hollywood to the small screen to the pop culture world with a dash of health and fitness tips for teenagers. Of course I am not a nutritionist, but I do intend  to share all the knowledge and tips I have gained by attending my food and nutrition classes in school for a good four years.

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